The holiday season is often a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness. But if you're facing an unplanned pregnancy, the holidays may feel overwhelming, filled with uncertainty, and perhaps even a little bit isolating.

It’s important to remember you’re not alone. There are ways to find peace, support, and even moments of joy during this time. Here are some tips for facing the holidays with an unplanned pregnancy and finding ways to move through this challenging season with strength and self-compassion.

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

First and foremost, give yourself permission to feel whatever you’re feeling. The holidays can be a reminder of how things might not have turned out the way you imagined, but your feelings are valid. It's okay to feel anxious, uncertain, scared, and even happy in some moments. No two journeys are alike, and it's normal to feel a mix of emotions as you navigate your pregnancy and what comes next.

Take time to process these feelings without judgment. Whether it's through journaling, talking with a trusted friend, or simply sitting in quiet reflection, acknowledging what you're going through is the first step.

2. Lean into Your Support System

You don’t have to go through this alone. Reach out to those in your life who can offer support, whether it’s family, friends, or a community group. If you’re feeling nervous about the idea of sharing your pregnancy news, know that there are people who will be there for you regardless of how things unfold. At Zoe, A Women’s Center we offer a safe space for connection and understanding as we help you navigate the next steps in your pregnancy or parenting journey.

3. Set Boundaries Around Holiday Celebrations

The holidays are often full of parties, family gatherings, and celebrations and you may not feel up to attending. It’s okay to say “no” to events or modify your attendance and participation. If family members are eager to celebrate, but you’re feeling anxious about the attention or expectations surrounding your pregnancy, it’s okay to set boundaries around what you're ready for. You can choose to attend parts of a celebration or decline an invitation entirely.

4. Focus on Your Health and Well-being

Taking care of yourself—physically, mentally, and emotionally—should be a top priority during this time. If you’re in early pregnancy, make sure you're getting the rest, hydration, and nutrition you need. Also, remember it's okay to step back from overexerting yourself socially or mentally. The holidays often come with a lot of pressure--be kind to yourself. It's okay to take breaks when you need them.

5. Consider Your Long-Term Goals and Options

The holidays can be a time to reflect, which may encourage you to think about your next steps. Whether you're considering parenting, adoption, or another option, give yourself the space to make decisions at your own pace. You don’t have to have everything figured out by New Year's Day.

If you're struggling with your options or simply need more information to make a decision, consider a no-cost consultation with one of our caring advocates who can help you weigh your options in a non-judgmental way. Whatever path you choose, it’s important to make a decision that feels right for you, even if it takes a little time.

6. Find Small Joys Amidst the Chaos

Even when life feels uncertain, the holidays can still offer moments of comfort and joy. Whether it’s enjoying a hot cup of tea by the fire, listening to your favorite holiday music, or savoring a moment of quiet alone time, try to focus on the little things that bring you peace.

Sometimes, the most unexpected joys come when we least expect them. It might be a comforting conversation with a friend, a quiet walk in the snow, or a moment of gratitude for the support you have. These small moments of connection with yourself and others can create joyful moments--even amid internal chaos.

7. Give Yourself Grace

Finally, remember there’s no perfect way to approach the holidays, or any part of an unplanned pregnancy. You are doing the best you can, and that’s enough. The holidays may be challenging, but they are also temporary. You have time to make decisions and embrace your journey however it unfolds.

This is a time for self-compassion. Be kind to yourself and let go of the pressure to meet expectations that others may place on you. Focus instead on taking care of your needs. 

The holidays may not look the same this year, but that doesn’t mean they have to be a season of stress or sadness. With the right support, self-compassion, and time to reflect on your options, you can navigate this season with strength and resilience. Whatever your journey looks like, know that you're deserving of peace, love, and the time and space to take the next step forward.

You’ve got this and we are here to walk alongside you.